FAQ

What exactly is happening here?

We are sitting and softly gazing at each other without using words. We open and close our eyes for a pause when needed, and stay for as long as both want to.

What do you mean by “sharing presence” or “connecting”?

To look at another human with the intention and simply experiencing that moment. To stay in the present moment, experiencing this moment directly without exchanging beliefs or ideas, at least initially.

Are we not supposed to talk?

Words can be beautiful and language is a great tool, but too often we don’t get the opportunity to practice really being still and open. Therefore it is advised not to speak during eye-gazing.

I find it hard to be silent, as well as to have someone look at me without anything else happening. What to do?

Practice makes perfect! You can even practice with yourself in the mirror. It helps to understand that our expectations and concerns come from previous habits, and societal conditioning. We can let go of these concerns and relax into our experience and create new experiences which then changes our sense of what is “normal”.

Do you have any tips for how to stay open and present?

Sensing our breath is very helpful. The breath can help bring awareness into our body and relax any area that feels tense. Closing our eyes to take an “inward pause” as needed also helps.